In this paper I explore the discourses employed by participants in my follow up interviews with these childfree women some thirteen years later, now they are aged 60+ years. I make some comparison with datasets that include transcripts from interviews with men aged 65+ (Arber and Davidson*, Bowling**).
In contrast to some discomfort expressed when younger in the contrast between their life and that of friends with children, a number of participants mentioned talk in older age about younger family members as something of a nuisance that could make for tedious conversation: 'I wish we could talk about something other than their grandchildren', or 'it cuts down their self-awareness as if they can only focus on somebody else'. Something had changed in their balance of accounting meaning some participants positioned themselves as companionable, free and active, and their friends with grandchildren as burdened by a sense of duty that required them to prioritise time caring for them and a narrow conversational focus.
*85 interviews men over 65 years (UKDA 6011 Arber, S. and Davidson, K., Older Men: their Social Worlds and Healthy Lifestyles, 1999-2002 of whom 15 had no children.
** 80 interviews men and women over 65 years (UKDA 5237, Bowling, A. Adding Quality to Quantity: Quality of Life in Older Age, 2000-2002) of whom 14 had no children.