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Gender Differences in Reactions to Coming out: The Reaction of Mothers of Non-Heterosexual Children and Their Roles
Previous research on parents’ reactions to coming out in the West have shown that mothers and fathers react differently; mothers are found out to be more likely to react positively, and feel less guilt and responsibility than fathers (Ben-Ari 1995). Moreover a parent tends to be more accepting of a non-heterosexual child of the same gender than that of the opposite gender (Ibid). However, what are the reasons for these differences? Moreover, can the same be observed in the case of Japan?
This paper explores how gender influences a parent’s reaction to coming out in Japanese social settings. In particular, it discusses how mothers assume gender roles in coping with their children’s disclosure of non-heterosexuality. Data gathered since December 2012 from interviews with family members of non-heterosexuals and observation research at a support group for family members. The research revealed that mothers of a non-heterosexual child were especially afraid of the collapse of the family they created (i.e. “family crisis”), while father did not present such narratives. Mothers react strongly to the “family crisis” due to traditionally given gender roles, in which they are expected to be more accountable for family affairs. Yet interestingly, these gender roles also influence mothers to overcome the “family crisis.”